As an unmarried young lady, the most lit moments are those that I spend engaging in deep thought, reflection, introspection, and reading and personal growth evaluation. And all of this continuously assists me in answering the most important reoccurring question that is key to success “WHO ARE YOU?” My first deep soul searching encounter with this question was in 2014, when I was at Victory Gap Year, Jeffreys Bay, South Africa.
I learnt that to be successful in life, to know my purpose in life and achieve it, I needed to know who I am. I got to understand that I am not defined by what I do, what I have or titles I’ve been given by men. Most importantly I got to learn, digest and understand that
Who I am is a definition in constant change because of growth, however with a fathomless embedded sustained and timeless definition.
So, I’ve come to the conclusion that the best way to find the answer to “WHO ARE YOU?” is to identify and highlight those deep rooted elements of your being (spirit and soul) that cannot be separated or taken away from the essence of your existence.
What then is the essence of your existence, your being? I believe that our communal essence is LOVE. That we are a people made from a spirit of love and blessed with the inheritance of that love. Individually we then take on the role of deciding how to act out and live in that love (will power). And the rest of it is grown from the soul, the values and character we grow into and adopt as a lifestyle and guide.
Personally what has helped me and continues to help me keep track of my growth is journaling. I write about my feelings, my revelations during my time with God, my observations on my surrounding and everything in it. Whatever I feel, whatever I see, I write.
Here are some SMART (Specific, Measurable, Result-Orientated and Time bound) goal questions I got from Shelly Collins 3 years ago to help you with a personal review:
- Who am I?
“We have spent little time enquiring who we are from God and more time getting our definition from the world.” – Shelly Collins
- Where am I on my journey?
“Missing the now means missing the foundation planting for tomorrow.” – Shelly Collins
- Where do I want to be?
“Your vision has to be tangible.” – Shelly Collins
- What needs to change for me to get there?
- What do I need to address before the end of this season/year?
“Change is not something that often happens overnight. It will happen within a certain time frame.” -Miss Ludo
- What support do I need?